For many people, accepting a separation from your spouse and moving on is one of the hardest things you can do. In fact, the only cases in which doing this is easy is when things are so bad that you cannot wait to exit the situation and move on with your life. A breakup with your spouse can disrupt the flow of your whole life. You may be reminded of your spouse wherever you go, especially if you share many mutual friends.

One of the biggest challenges you have to overcome when you are ready to move on is the relationships your friends have with your spouse. In particular, if your spouse is popular with your friends, you may have a tough time trying to get them to accept the situation and to stop asking you questions about the status of your relationship. If you and your spouse often spent time with the same group of people, then your attending parties or get-togethers by yourself (without your spouse) will seem strange to them at first. Still, it is very important that you continue to maintain a strong relationship with your friends. Do not let your falling out with your spouse interfere with your close friendships.

If you find that you and your spouse share a lot of mutual friends, some of your friends may choose to “side” with your spouse. You may find that you have to actually give up some of those friendships, especially if they end up trying to choose between you and your spouse. While this can be painful, it’s probably best for everyone involved and could make life a lot easier for everyone.

It is similar with your family as it is with your friends. In a sense, your family is an extension of yourself. Therefore, your breakup with your spouse can be surprisingly difficult for your family members to deal with, as well. To overcome any temptation they have to try to influence your current situation with your spouse, keep drawing your family’s attention to the fact that things are really over with your spouse. Since your family supports and loves you, they will eventually come around and see it your way.

Accepting separation from spouse is sometimes just too difficult when you’re surrounded by mutual friends. If you can, take a vacation and get away from the same scene and people for a while. Or, take a vacation with a friend who is totally disconnected from the situation and does not even know your spouse. Doing this can help you get some perspective on your situation.

Accepting the reality of your separation from your spouse may be one of the hardest things you have ever had to do. Still, you need to be strong during this tough time. Realize that, as much as your friends and family may still care about your spouse, they still love you and want to support what is best for you. Give yourself a bit of time alone or with a close friend, and in the meantime, trust that everything will eventually right itself. Remember to stay strong and true to your beliefs and values.