My Ex Left and Married Another Woman – How to Get Him BackFebruary 16th, 2009
If you are saying to yourself, “My ex left and married another woman,” you are in a club with thousands of other woman. While most of those women end up never getting back with the man they still love, that is because they are not armed with the knowledge of how to do so. I am going to arm you with that knowledge now.
Do you want to get your ex back? If this is something you want more than anything else right now, read on. You obviously have a large emotional investment in your relationship, and you may not be ready to just give up on the relationship. You may want to rekindle the love.
First, it is important to face the truth about your own thoughts and feelings. Do you still care deeply about him? If you just miss him for the security of having someone familiar around, that may not be enough. No, in order to have a real chance of getting him back, you need to still harbor a deep passion for him.
Next, you need to really come to terms with how he feels about you. Does he still, at some level, have that deep and great love for you? Maybe the two of you split up even though you still love each other because you argued too much, had different goals, managed your lives differently. If he still loves you deeply, keep reading. If not, you need to do everything you can to forget him and move on. End of story.
If you have decided that yours is a deep love that still exists to this day, you are able to free yourself to really start working on that which can bring you back together.
Think back to when you used to be together and were at your happiest. Did you take better care of yourself? Were you a happier, more cheerful person? Were you interesting and interested in life, being involved in many activities outside of your relationship?
If you are like most women, after you have been with your man for a while you start to change little by little. Maybe you do not take very good care of yourself anymore. Maybe you stopped being quite as interesting, falling into the same daily routine. If you really want to win him back, you need to become the person he fell in love with all over again.
Meanwhile, try to cultivate an independent, detached spirit. Give off the clear signal that you are fine on your own. This may sound like a paradox, but it is absolutely essential if you want to have any chance of getting him back. Then, when you do get together with your ex from time to time, use the past to your advantage. For instance, if there were some clothes of yours that he really liked you to wear, indulge him a bit and wear them. And, remind him of many of the positive experiences you used to have together. Talking about good times can bring forth his feelings of love and affection for you.
Finally, if you want to win your ex back, just be yourself. Whether or not he is really still in love with you is not within your power to control. But, by being yourself, either way you will come out of all of this a healthier, happier person. And, you just may find your way back into his arms.